Extramarital Affairs

I know some people have a lot of extramarital affairs, not only wealthy businessmen and stars and etc. I know its wrong and immoral and even despicable, but yeah, it occurs and takes place a lot, not only in rich families but also within the poorer ones. Would you go for it or not? I wouldn't because highly against it myself.... I know some men and women love it and find it very thrilling and exciting. And its costly and expensive too. But yeah, this could lead to the wife and the family's murder and killing.

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lol wiseguy... very funny, not... XDD plus a very direct and crude and blunt way to answer it... XDD So I now know that you're not going to be a loyal and faithful husband or boyfriend either.

I really don't think that I would ever be unfaithful to my husband. Having watched others' marriages and families disintegrate under the pressure of an extramarital affair, I've always sworn that if I were so unhappy in my marriage to even begin to consider it that I would talk to my husband about counselling and would surely pursue a divorce first.

At the same time, I've seen a lot of otherwise really good, really honest, really moral people who somehow became involved in an affair. Even though my natural tendency is to want to throw stones, I guess I just have to wonder what sort of awful circumstances that otherwise good people fall into that make them betray their most fundamental oaths.

I really don't think I could ever look my kids in the eye and say that mommy and daddy aren't going to live together anymore because mommy's been kissing other men. That's probably the biggest deterrent for me. Motherly love should be purer than that plain and simple.

At the end of the day, there but for the grace of God go I.

But the question is though, do you love your hubby? Are you happy with him?

I love my husband. We've been together for a long time and I'll always love him. Even if we got to the point where we didn't like each other anymore and got divorced, we share children, we share years of memories and I will always love him. But love isn't a magic fix for every problem in any kind of relationship whether it be between spouses, parents and children or even friends. I can love someone and still let them down; they can love me and still do the same.

On the whole, I would say we have a happy marriage. We still enjoy spending time together. We still dream big together. We love our kids and run ourselves ragged chasing them around together. But there are problems. My husband loves to spend more money than we have; I tend to miser over every penny. There are times when work and family responsibilities mean that we literally do not even see each other for days at a time. That's not easy on a marriage. We fight over how to best parent our kids, over where to live, over what to watch on tv. It happens.

I don't see myself ever cheating on my husband. My husband once cheated on me. It was a horrible period of time in my life; the first and only time I ever really thought I could kill someone. We went to counseling and changed a lot of the ways that we communicate. My husband was wrong, but at that time I wasn't being the best wife and mother that I could be either. His unfaithfulness wasn't my fault, but continuing to be married was a choice I made and making it work is a choice we've made together.

Although much of the trust I had in my husband, and honestly a lot of the respect I had for him, evaporated the day that I found out and in the subsequent months when the details all began to leak out, I've seen him work hard to rebuild that trust and that respect. He's a better man now than he was when I first married him. It's been a long and winding road, but I think we will make it.

Must have been horribly nasty or awful for your eh? I'm sorry to hear that... I despise cheaters... I take pity on you or sympathize with you. But really like that you've got over it or overcame it... many wives would have held a grudge against their hubby for it.

I pretty much like trew's answer not so black and white. it is like APS said, we can talk a lot about how loyal we are and how we think it is immoral and we wouldn't do it but that kind of situation doesn't come the way we have it in our head unless we're the one pursuing it, and we already made clear we have no intention of that.

Many mistakes comes from letting yourself go and not being able to think clearly. People having a house but not feeling home will feel more tempted to search for something, even if they don't they will find harder to resist to someone making him/her feel they are worth again.

I want to think I have things in control and that I love my partner very much. I will do my best to be faithful and so far it hasn't even been a chore or something to sweat, we both feel confident on each other feelings and can even joke about it. So no, I'd like to think I wouldn't go. Not willingly acknowledging it. I can't keep that kind of thing secret to my dear one and that is enough deterrent for me, aside my own beliefs about how I should go about this.

I hope not in fact... for you at least.

So do I, Naiwen. Thanks.

There are a variety of reasons someone in a relationship has an extramarital affair. For some having one may be the only way out a relationship.