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    Inappropraite to Ask?

    ramtastic05 Aug 10, 2012

    1. ramtastic05

      ramtastic05 Talkative

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      I put this in the debate forum because i think people might have different opinions on this.
      If you don't know, I am a guy. So my question is, is it inappropriate to ask a women with a large belly if she is pregnant, or ask how far along the baby is?

      Since I'm a socially awkward person, I just avoid this at all costs due solely to the fact that there will be that awkward moment that would result if she is not pregnant. I would definitely never ask this to anyone in the workplace or any place that requires professionalism

      What are your thoughts on this?
       
    2. Shortie861

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      I personally myself wouldn't say that it is inappropriate to be fair however it can put you in an awkward position if they turn out not to be pregnant at all. I personally myself always wait to find out if they are pregnant or not rather than ask however I do know some people who will straight out ask without even a second thought.
       
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      I think I would rather wait until either they say or it's obvious.
       
    4. ramtastic05

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      i pretty much do the same thing you guys said, its way too dangerous, lol
       
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      I suppose you could word it along the lines
      "Is that a bun in the oven or too many buns in the oven" :D
       
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      Grungie Raging Alcoholic

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      There's a bunch of overweight girls here, so it's best to avoid that question. Unless you can tell she's average sized and obviously preggo.
       
    7. ramtastic05

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      thats really funny

      where do you live to have so many girls overweight?
       
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      thats intense, i also find it funny how there is no state with less than 10%
       
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      I made the mistake of asking our property manager that:lol:
       
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      Though tbh 10% isn't really a lot, I know quite a few people that measured for having 10% and they don't even look close to overweight.
       
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      @Spice - How did she react?

      Do you guys think its worse if a female or male asks the question and is wrong?
       
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      i would hate to presume incase i was wrong so i just wouldnt ask it xxx
       
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      My lips would be sealed but the mind would be doing overtime. I would wait and see. I remember years ago I had just started work and asked a lady if she was pregnant. She was most upset as she wasn't. I wasn't very tactful back then.
       
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      @toetapping - same here about the mind being on overdrive, its very tempting to ask,
      i use to work at a retail store and trying to make small talk with customers was always hard for me so sometimes if i saw a women who looked pregnant, i thought about starting a conversation about her pregnancy or about kids or something, but i didn't want to take the chance of being wrong
       
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      she was actually quite gracious about it...you see she was with another woman who was pregnant and well they both were about the same size so you can see how the mistake could be made.
       
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      @spice - wow, i didnt think anyone would react that calmly, but i wonder if she was secretly plotting revenge in her mind against you, women can be like that can't they? lol
       
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      Nah, we are cool :)
       
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      as my daughter would say, Karmas a bitch lol xxx
       
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      @Spice - You should sleep with 1 eye open for a little while, you might wake in the middle of the night to see a figure with holding a pillow over your head trying to smother you