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    Parenting: How old were you?

    Shortie861 Sep 24, 2011

    1. Shortie861

      Shortie861 Administrator Staff Member

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      How old were you when you had your first child?

      I myself was 17 years old when I had my first child.

      Do you think there is a right or wrong age to become a parent?
       
    2. APS

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      I was 23 and so long as you are 16+ there is no right or wrong age.
       
    3. fiona1964

      fiona1964 Chataholic

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      Had my first at 16 even though he did not live pass 12 hours
       
    4. RJH

      RJH Getting There

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      I was 26 when I had mine
       
    5. Beverly

      Beverly Getting There

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      I was 30 years old when i gave birth to my daughter. She is an only child. I wanted to be a mother sooner, but nature did not have that in mind for me. Have wanted other children, but again, did not work out. We'll see. If it happens again, it happens. If not, i am content being mom to one.
       
    6. Cecil15

      Cecil15 I am Me...

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      I was 23 then when I had my first baby. It was unplanned though, but there were no regrets. I love my kids and my husband and I are more than willing to be parents to two cute little boys. ;)
       
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      I was 27 when I had my son. I don't necessarily think that there is a wrong age to have kids, but I think that if you have kids at any age you should make sure you are ready for the responsiblity of them.
       
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      I think you should be at least 20. I also think you should have a fulltime job. There are some messed up people out there having kids. They should really have a class in highschool about how to run a house and take care of kids.
       
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      I was 40 when my son was born.
      After being married for over twelve years we didn't think it was going to happen and then out of the blue...
       
    10. Beverly

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      That is similar to my situation. I didn't really think i could even have children, cause i'd tried so many times before and even been through at least one confirmed miscarriage recently before that event happened. Sometimes, the body is just not ready for pregnancy. And, then one day it is. Who can explain it?
       
    11. Shortie861

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      I don't think anyone can really explain it to be honest it is one of those things, some women will fall pregnant really easily and others have to keep trying until in the end it does happen and other times it really is a case of they are unable to get pregnant which can be heartbreaking for many women.
       
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      I'm a man so I can't be certain about this but I would imagine that if you have tried to the point of believing it will never happen and then it does it is probably a much greater event than if you just try and succeed.
       
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      I don't think there is right or wrong age to become a parent, it really depends the person and if they are ready to unselfishly devote the rest of their lives (a child is for life not until it reaches adulthood) to their offspring.

      I had my 1st child when I was 22 yrs old and 7th and last child when I was 41 yrs old. I adore all my kids and have spent my life putting their wellbeing and care first.

      The only difference between the 1st and 7th was that at the age of 41 yrs I found the night feeds tiring especially as when the morning came I also had 6 other kids to care for. :runaway:
       
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      I am right now 23 I have a 10 month old but my first one was when I was 17 years old. He was taken away from me and I dont see him any more but I got full custody of my 10 month old son right now.
       
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      I was 23 when I had my first. I was one of the 3 cousins out of more than 20 of us to have a child after their 20's and married. I definitely think 17 is very young, teenage years are the best time to learn responsibility and if you don't get that chance they when are you going to have it again?
       
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      I was actually only 17 when I had my son with my girlfriend (17 too). We had been planning for a while as we both love each other. I didn't find 17 too young, we are both very mature and very responsible parents. We are now nearing the age of 20 and already planning for another baby next year.
       
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      I was 26 and my wife 25 and no plans on having anymore.
       
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      I has my daughter right before my 18th birthday.
      I dont have regrets with having my children, i just wish i had them with a different man. My 2 oldest kids have a dead beat of a dad. My youngest boys' father is actually a wonderful father to them.
       
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      I was 18
       
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      I was nearly nineteen when I had my first child and had three by the time I was 23. It is really hard I think being a young parent and I wish I would have waited, but I think that it depends on how you were raised (i.e, if people in your family were young parents) and whether you feel ready or not. Of course, something like 12 or 13 I really feel is wrong, because they are proper children and shouldn't be burdened with that kind of responsibility! But in general I think it is more common nowadays to be a young parent than have a child in your thirties late twenties.